However this move really brought out a few important realizations
and experiences for me which I thought I would share. The biggest advantage of all that I felt was, the crap that it brought out, the cleaning that it facilitated at various levels, beginning from a physical level. This time around I and my wife decided that we are not going to stick to the old stuff that we are probably emotionally attached to and we would never use again, likewise stuff that we haven’t used in a while say a year, 2 years etc, we will not keep. And what a decision it was! We cleared and filled 6-7 large boxes of stuff to either recycle or donate and there was more stuff which just went into garbage.
And you know what, many times when we used to come to an item, piece of clothing or any other stuff which we knew that we haven’t used for a while, we still had that this place from within which wanted to hold on to this item. And not wanting to take the decision or being unsure we asked each other this question “ Do you think you are going to use this”? Or “Do you think it will be useful for me?”. We knew the answer but we were still afraid to let go of the thing. There was still some insecurity that we are still going to need this piece of clothing or this cosmetic item or this piece of whatever which we haven’t found any use of in past so many months or years. The mind would always come back and tell you" How could you let go of this? You will need it, it is a part of you!"
Additionally I also found stuff related to my self help work like affirmations I had written like 6-7 years back and then just forgotten, old printouts of books and material which I had used and
was emotionally attached to, some clothing items which I could keep wearing again and again or at least thought in my mind that I am going to use. I realized that when we had moved house 2 years back (or even 6 years before that) there was stuff which we brought along and which was not touched, used and will not likely be used for next many years or ever. But we still had it with us; some of these were like new things and hadn’t been touched but what is important is the question "Were they of any use? "
I also realized that we were just holding on to all of this things and stuck with them around that time frame when they had come into being in our lives, probably also stuck with the related emotional state at that time and which is not really helping us to move forward. So this was a sort of a big letting go of stuff at a physical level and mental/emotional too. And this time around moving was not really a big burden, stressful experience like in the past. We even managed to squeeze in watching a funny movie in between all of the packing on the previous day of the move :-) and even went out for a short drive in the pouring rain which Montreal was blessed with. We had a group of friends who were helping out on the day of the move so thanks to them, I am sure they also had a hand in making this a no stress event. And as soon as I let go of all this stuff I had this light feeling, like I was filled with more freedom and I felt I had created a space within me to grow more. I am still carrying that feeling along. And I must say Kudos to my wife who actually was able to let go of so much stuff from her so called personal stuff. She took quite a decision and stuck to it - even left behind some of her cosmetic, jewelry items ;-).
And there is another funny thing that happened during the move and this happened twice so it is worth mentioning. It was two times that friends who were helping us move almost brought in the boxes meant for donation or recycle, to be moved with the stuff meant for the new place. And both the times I did send it back, did not accept it any more into the new place/space we were creating. What that primarily means is that it was almost like we were being tested for keeping the stuff that you wanna let go of but you have to take a decision that I am done with it and it is time to move forward. So all in all a wonderful, rewarding experience this move was. I love the fun filled, joyful, free feeling that came along with this. And I and my wife are also discussing the possibility that what if we just empty out everything like even big pieces of furniture, utensils, crockery etc with the next move and start afresh letting go of just about all the old stuff and then stepping into the new. We will see in time how it eventually pans out.
So wishing all those who are ready to move or about to move a wonderful, fun and freedom filled move. All the best for letting go of the old and creating more space both inside and outside. I am sure you know this is applicable to all the areas of life ;-) so everyone might wanna ask this question. AM I READY TO MOVE?.
Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences.